Sex toys can be a whole lot of fun, but picking out your first one is a pretty scary task.
Will it fit, will I like it, what lube should I use?
It can seem overwhelming because there really is a lot to think about, so we have tried to make the process a little easier with a few pre-purchase tips and a rundown of some of my favorite beginner sex toys.
Best Sex Toys for Beginners - Comparison Chart
King Cock Realistic Suction Cup Dildo
Doc Johnson's Slim Silicone Dildo
Rocks Off RO-80mm Bullet Vibrator
Lovehoney Silencer Whisper Classic Vibrator
Lovehoney Micro Wand Vibrator
Bodywand Aqua Wand Vibrator
Lovehoney Love Egg Vibrator
Mantric Remote Control Egg Vibrator
BASICS Anal Beads
Anal Sex Toys
Lovehoney Beginner's Butt Plug
Anal Sex Toys
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What Types of Sex Toys Are Best for Beginners?
There are no strict rules around what types of sex toys are the best for beginners. When you check out the beginner specific categories of sex toy store websites you will see that there really are all sorts of different types of toys in there.
You will find dildos, classic vibrators, clitoral vibrators and anal toys – all of which we are going to look at soon – but what they really all have in common is their size and the ease of use.
Beginner sex toys will generally be on the smaller side. If they are internal stimulators, they will usually be under 7 inches long and probably quite thin and it is much the same with external toys too.
As a kind of rule (of course, there are exceptions), the larger the external toy, the more power it will have. You will see that below with the wand vibrators we have chosen. The next thing you will come across is how easy they are to use.
This can simply be based around having a retrieval cord so you can remove it easily, like egg vibrators, or it may refer to the simplicity of the vibration control panel. It can already be intimidating using a toy for the first time without a complicated set of controls!
Easing into Sex Toys – Aspects to Keep in Mind
One of the best things you can do to help you find your first sex toy is to read customer reviews and look for as many as you can. You will also find that most reviews will be displayed with the best ones showing first, so look a little deeper to see what it is that people dislike about a toy.
All pleasure is personal and what one person likes may be totally different to you, but the more you read, the better an understanding you will have.
The next thing to keep in mind to always use lubricant. Using a toy for the first time can be pretty scary and when we are nervous, our bodies tend to clench up. Lube will help to make everything a lot more comfortable for you and will give you a much better experience overall. I suggest applying some lube to your body as well as the toy to get yourself excited, warmed up and allow your body to relax.
And don’t forget to try not to put your expectations too high on the first try. I have tried toys that were all the rage and found that they just didn’t work for me, or at least not the first time around. I always give things a second try, but sometimes we buy toys that we just don’t like. That doesn’t mean that you should give up! It just means it wasn’t the right toy. That’s why reading those reviews and understanding your likes and your body is so important before you buy.
Review of the Best Sex Toys for Beginners
Here are the toys that I think are great for beginners. I’ve added a few from some different styles so that you compare and see what you think will work best for you.
Best Dildos for Beginners
1. King Cock Ultra Realistic Suction Cup Dildo
If you are looking for a dildo that looks and feels just like the real thing, then look no further than King Cock. These are ultra-realistic dildos that even have veins hand painted on them and ridged heads to look as much like a real penis as possible. They come in all sorts of sizes and colors, but this 6.5-inch option is the perfect one for beginners. The toy has a circumference of 5.5 inches so it's not too girthy to insert and is made from PVC material that has a soft, squishy lifelike feel to it.
If you want a realistic beginner dildo that won’t break the bank, then this is a great option for you, just be careful with the suction and stick it down as hard as possible.
2. Doc Johnson The Slim Silicone Dildo
If you are looking for something even thinner through the shaft, then this Doc Johnson dildo may be a better option for you. This is a non-anatomical toy so it doesn’t look anything like a penis and is a bit more discreet than the King Cock.
As the title suggests, it is also super thin with a circumference of only 3.5 inches and an insertable length of 5.5 inches. It’s made from super smooth silicone that also has some squish to it so is really comfortable to use, even for beginners. It can also be used as a great foreplay tool to get your body ready for vaginal or anal sex.
The thinness of the shaft makes this a great dildo for a beginner that can be used vaginally or anally with ease. Just don’t use silicone lube!
Best Vibrators for Beginners
1. Rocks Off Ammunition RO-80mm Bullet Vibrator
Bullet vibrators are an amazing little toy for beginners to clitoral stimulation. They are targeted, compact and generally pretty powerful. The Rocks Off range, in particular, are known for their power and this one is no exception.
Even though it is a single speed vibrator, it packs a punch and the hard plastic transfers the vibration to the clitoris really well. It is nice and small too measuring only 3.25 inches in length and 2 inches in circumference so you can use it during partnered play too without it getting in the way.
This is a cool little vibe that is super strong and easy to take anywhere you go. It is strong, pretty and fairly quiet too.
2. Lovehoney Silencer Whisper Quiet Classic Vibrator
Classic vibrators are another awesome option for beginners as they are non-intimidating and super easy to use. This is an internal vibrator, although it could actually be used externally too if you wish as the end is nice and round.
This toy has a rippled shaft for extra stimulation and is multi-speed so you can use it just the way you like it. The control dial is on the bottom of the shaft and you simply twist it to move the vibration speed up or down.
It is 7 inches insertable length which may seem a bit long for some, but there is no need to insert the toy all the way in with this style, you only need to go as far as you are comfortable with. The circumference is 4.75 inches so is quite thin throughout the shaft.
This is a great beginner toy for someone that wants a strong vibrator that is multispeed and not too noisy.
Best Wand Vibrators for Beginners
1. Lovehoney 3-Speed Micro Massage Wand Vibrator
Wand vibrators are created with power in mind, so a full-size wand massager may not be the best option for beginners, however, mini options like this one tend to be a little less intense and are a great way to try out whether you like a wand or not.
This one is a battery operated micro wand vibe that is a perfect size to pop in your handbag. There are 3 speeds that range from a low to a medium level of vibration. If you want super strong vibes, then go for a full-sized wand. This one has a head made from smooth coated plastic that presses firmly against the clitoris.
This is a really good wand vibrator to start out with if you are unsure whether a wand is a right toy for you. It is cheap and small but still offers a lot of the fun of a full-sized wand.
2. Bodywand Aqua Massage Wand Vibrator
If you want to go for a full-sized option, then this wand by Bodywand is a great option for beginners too. This is a full-sized wand vibrator with 8 different vibration levels. They go from a light buzz all the way up to a deep rumble making it ideal for beginner to intermediate users.
It’s pretty big at 10 inches long so it's definitely not discreet, but it offers much more power than a mini or micro wand. Even with all that power, this is still one of the more quite wands on the market, even on its strongest setting.
This is a pretty silicone wand vibe that has multi-speeds and is great for a beginner through to an intermediate level user. It’s not good for people with arthritis or other hand difficulties as the vibration can make it too hard to hold.
Best Egg Vibrators for Beginners
1. Lovehoney Wickedly Powerful Love Egg Vibrator
Egg vibrators use an external controller to control the vibration and are great fun for use alone or with a partner. This is a particularly good option for beginners as it is corded and the egg part is attached to the controller with a wire.
Egg vibes can be difficult to remove when you first start out, so having this cord makes retrieval super easy and gives you peace of mind while you play. The wire is 31 inches so it will not get in the way or make it difficult to control.
The egg itself is made from hard ABS plastic and is multi-speed with some nice strong vibrators. It measures 2.5 inches in length and 3.4 inches circumference so it a great beginner size.
This is a really great beginner egg vibe that is easy to use and remove, just take care when you are cleaning it not to get water on the wired part.
2. Mantric Rechargeable Remote Control Egg Vibrator
This egg vibe is a bit of a step up from the last one in both price and quality, but it is still a great choice for beginners to this type of toy. This product is made from silicone and has a separate egg part and a wireless remote control. There is an awesome retrieval loop attached to the egg to make removal super easy still so you don’t need to worry about anything getting lost.
This egg measures 3.5 inches in length by 4.5 inches in circumference so is a bit more girthy than the other option. There are 7 different vibration speeds and patterns which can all be controlled via the remote control, so you can use it alone or with a partner.
This is a high-quality silicone product that will last you a long time, however, if you are a power queen, this may not be strong enough.
Best Anal Sex Toys for Beginners
1. BASICS Anal Beads
Anal beads are the perfect toy for newbies to anal play. They are small, un-intimidating and you only need to insert them as far as you want to to get all the amazing benefits.
Anal beads are designed to stimulate the opening to the anus and are best used when pulled out slowly during orgasm to make it super intense. These beads from BASICS are a cheap and fun option that is firm yet flexible making them easy to insert. The largest bead is actually at the start of this set, meaning that you insert the widest one first then progress further down if you want to.
Having the largest bead first means that you can just use that one if you want to and you will still get a lot of stimulation. The full length of these beads are 8 inches and they are 3 inches circumference at their widest point.
I highly recommend this style of anal beads for anal newbies. They are cheap, fun and non-intimidating while still offering a lot of stimulation.
2. Lovehoney Classic Silicone Extra Petite Beginner's Butt Plug
A butt plug this size is the perfect way to train your body and relax the sphincter for anal play. This plug is super small, about the size of a thumb and is a great introduction to anal play that won’t overwhelm you or feel too intense when it is inside.
Being small like this, also means that it should go in a lot easier than bigger plugs. It's made of silicone so it can’t be used with silicone lube but it should glide in nicely with some good quality water-based lubricant. It is 2.75 inches insertable length and 2.8 inches circumference so it's super tiny.
This is one of the smallest plugs you can get, so, be aware that it might mean you need to hold it in place.
What Makes for a Good First Dildo?
When you're considering buying your first dildo, there are a few things you should think about before you make your final purchase.
Length and size are probably the most critical factors to consider. Dildos are made to please, and you should think about what size penis you're most comfortable with.
If you want to feel fuller while using your dildo, then you should consider a width of 1.5 inches. This width is the equivalent of two fingers and is the average size of a penis. Another aspect to consider is the material.
Silicone dildos are the safest with no phthalates and are non-porous, which can help with cleanup and preventing the accumulation of bacteria. Materials also affect whether the dildo will be flexible or stiff.
Things to Avoid With Your First Dildo
There are a few items you should avoid when purchasing your first dildo. The first is buying a dildo designed for vaginal play if you plan to use it anally. Vaginal dildos are designed fill the depth of the vagina which stops at the cervix, so depth of insertion isn’t a concern.
Anal dildos, on the other hand, are designed for safe removal if you happen to insert the dildo too far. Anal and vaginal dildos should not be used interchangeably. Also, anal and vaginal dildos will be more pleasing if they are used for the correct areas -- you will be able to take more advantage of natural curvatures of your body.
Lastly, beginners should keep in mind that their first dildo needs to be one they're comfortable using. Typically, dildos with a lot of features are intended for those who are more experienced. Keep your purchase simple and enjoy the sexual satisfaction of your first dildo.
How to Care for Your Toy
Now that you know what you are after, it is super important to take care of your new toy to keep it body safe and making it last for a long time.
To start with, make sure you have the right lube for your toy. Silicone lube reacts with silicone toys as it tries to bond together and will make the toy tacky and sticky. Not good! If you are unsure, stick to a water-based lube as this is safe with all toy materials and condoms too. You also want to make sure you wash your toy before and after use to ensure there is no bacteria or dust on the toy.
Use a toy cleaner like this great one from Lovehoney with some warm water to thoroughly clean the toy. Then leave it to fully dry before you store it away.
There really is no need to be scared of diving in and buying your first sex toy. Just think it through, have a look at reviews and think about what you like then go from there. And remember that sex toys are all about fun, so relax! And have a good time with your toy.
She has a Bachelor of Communications with majors in Journalism and Expressive Arts. Now, she lives in sunny Barcelona and shares her knowledge of all things pleasurable as a freelance writer. When she’s not writing, you can find her doing Pilates, drinking prosecco or playing with her darling dog, Peaches.